Pendekatan mengurus konflik dalam rumah tangga bermadu

Approach in managing conflict in a polygamous household

Authors

  • Mariam Abd. Majid Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA
  • Sahlawati Abu Bakar Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA https://orcid.org/0000-0002-9688-7261
  • Muhammad Yusuf Marlon Abdullah Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA https://orcid.org/0009-0007-9275-3999
  • Salasiah Hanin Hamjah Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), MALAYSIA
  • Zulkefli Aini Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), MALAYSIA
  • Mohd Ridhuan Mohd Jamil Politeknik Nilai, MALAYSIA
  • Naqibah Mansor Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA

DOI:

https://doi.org/10.53840/alirsyad.v5i1.98

Keywords:

Faktor, Pendekatan, Mengurus Konflik, Rumah Tangga, Bermadu

Abstract

Conflict is an unavoidable condition and is part and parcel of life in a household, especially in a polygamous household. This article aims to present the factors that contribute to household conflict and the approach to managing them. The data were obtained through semi-structured interviews with sampling techniques aimed at five sister-wives and one polygamous husband. The interview data transcriptions were analysed to form themes and sub-themes, and validation was performed using Cohen Kappa calculations. The data analysis revealed that the internal factors that trigger conflict are secretive marriage, lack of concern, jealousy, and misunderstanding, whereas the external factors are neglecting responsibility, difficulty in adjusting, and lack of communication. Among the approaches taken to manage this conflict are to hold discussions, to be generous, to be tolerant, to care for each other, to appreciate, to be patient, to accept the qada' and qadar of Allah Almighty, to protect the household’s honour, and to limit unimportant social activities. This finding can serve as a guide in the management of polygamous household conflicts.

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Author Biographies

Mariam Abd. Majid, Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA

A lecturer at the Department of Dakwah and Usuluddin, Faculty of Islamic Civilization Studies, Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS). She holds a Bachelor of Usuluddin, a Master of Usuluddin, and a Doctor of Philosophy specialising in Da'wah Methodology from the University of Malaya. Her expertise is Usuluddin, Methodology in da'wah, Psychology in da'wah, and Marketing in da'wah. She can be contacted at mariam@kuis.edu.my.

 

Sahlawati Abu Bakar, Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA

 

 

Muhammad Yusuf Marlon Abdullah, Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA

 

 

Salasiah Hanin Hamjah, Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), MALAYSIA

 

 

Zulkefli Aini, Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia (UKM), MALAYSIA

 

 

Mohd Ridhuan Mohd Jamil, Politeknik Nilai, MALAYSIA

 

 

Naqibah Mansor, Kolej Universiti Islam Antarabangsa Selangor (KUIS), MALAYSIA

 

 

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Abd. Majid, M., Abu Bakar, S., Abdullah, M. Y. M., Hamjah, S. H., Aini, Z., Mohd Jamil, M. R., & Mansor, N. (2020). Pendekatan mengurus konflik dalam rumah tangga bermadu: Approach in managing conflict in a polygamous household. Al-Irsyad: Journal of Islamic and Contemporary Issues, 5(1), 253–265. https://doi.org/10.53840/alirsyad.v5i1.98

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Vol. 5 No. 1 (2020): al-Irsyad: Journal of Islamic and Contemporary Issues

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